Then I started thinking about my philosophy of gifting:
1. no gift is required in return. The pleasure of giving is plenty.
2. I (and most givers) do not want to hear, "I have one of those already", "that is my least favorite color", "it is the wrong size and would fit my pet", or "wow that must have cost plenty!". Just say thank you, how kind of you.
3. Once the gift is given, do what you like with the object. It truly IS the thought, and if you don't need or want what I gave you, you can a. throw it away, b. donate it to charity, c. re-gift it to another person, d. paint it another color, or e. burn it.
4. A gift is not to be kept for life unless it is useful that long.*
*Keeping unwanted and unsolicited gifts because the giver might someday show up and ask where it is, is a form of insanity.